Take Care

Most of the time when I am walking through the University , I am walking in my own zone, thinking about my notes , making sure I walk between tiles , my time table and so many other things . Then suddenly some girl just calls out my name , I don’t remember her name but I know the familiar small talk we are going to have . First: Exclamatory hi! . Second: How is it going/ internship question/ wow you are about to graduate questions . Then it’s time to say goodbye and then we both say “Take Care” . These three questions are programmed in my subconscious mind , just to prove myself a human . After the goodbye I am confused for a moment giving a name to the individual I just met . Small talk is not the issue , the thing is we are saying words not knowing their meanings . Even knowing the meaning we are using them recklessly rendering them without meaning progressively .

You told me to “take care” , maybe I will maybe I will not . I don’t know that you care for me , but your “take care” just evaporated , you committed the crime of liberating the word from it’s meaning . After realising how a small group of true friends is the only thing I need , acting social seems a burden sometimes . There is no harm in smiling and small talk but using words that touch a soul is important .

When I am with my friends I never say “take care” because I know , I will definitely take care of them . “Take Care” sounds so selfish , sounds like you do your thing , take care , ย do whatever , I am not even looking . I will use take care only after I have chatted with a close friend after a long time and I will be there to inquire about them next time when we talk. It may not be selfish but a product of our busy lives , just trying to say something polite . What is your take?

In the end I feel find someone who says I will take care of you and just embed them in your lives!

 

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98 thoughts on “Take Care

  1. I’m usually say to someone God Bless you or have a good one. I don’t use “take care” but I hear it a lot. Thought provoking though because I never thought of it as selfish, but reading your blog, yeah it kind of does just put it off on the person you are throwing “take care” onto. Great post, makes you think. God Bless you ๐Ÿ™‚

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  2. I do use the words Take Care, but I use them to show my empathy for other souls. With this I mean, take good care of yourself, don’t expect others can do this better than you.
    I say this, because I like people, otherwise I would never say so.

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  3. Does it not depend on how it is said and in what context? I rarely use it, but when I do, it is always in context to someone going through some tough times and I want to acknowledge that and wish them well. take care ๐Ÿ™‚

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  4. I’d never really thought about why that reflexive phrase bothered me until reading your post. It’s true: the words are like a curt command–I’m on my way and you’re on your own. It’s possible to infuse them with real feeling, I suppose, to really express a wish that the person on the other end will care for himself/herself better (I may even have been on the receiving end of a few well-meant “take cares,” whgen obviously not taking care of myself). But how much better it would be, even in the condition of obvious distress, to hear any version of something like, “Are you okay?” or, if one is obviously not okay, “Can I do something to help?”

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  5. I usually say … How ya doing? Then wait for the other to respond and end by saying … Have a good day! This is usually in passing when I’m hiking. I always try to get the other person’s eye contact making sure we have friendly company or if not I know how to clearly say with my eyes … I’m tough so don’t bother me. I am a woman walking alone in some pretty remote areas. Ninety nine percent of folks are nice as we exchange genuine radiating smiles. ๐Ÿ’–

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  6. hahaha isn’t someone asking you to take care of yourself taking care of you? Sometimes having someone who cares enough to ask you of take care of you when they are not around, is enough. Because having someone who cares at all is a privilege denied to many.

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        1. You know, Suzanne, there are many things I’d like to accomplish this year that I won’t even voice for fear I’ll fail … again! Funny thing is I’ve heard or read the word intention three times this morning, so I think I need to embrace the concept. Live each day with intention. Think of all the time I won’t waste! Grab your dreams and dash confidently into the new year.

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  7. I so appreciate your perspective…you have a measure of sensitivity and soulfulness that internalizes connections beyond superficial exchanges…thanks for this thought-provoking post…it’s wonderful ๐Ÿ™‚

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  8. It’s funny how we all view things from such different perspectives. When I say, “take care” to anyone family, friend or casual acquaintance, I mean it more as a reminder to look both ways before crossing the street/be aware of your surroundings sense. I only say “have a great day” to people I like:)

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    1. GREAT post, Jenika! And thanks for the shoutout!Jamie Swanson recently po]itd..[sJeneka Reply:November 1st, 2012 at 4:23 pmThanks Jamie! Thanks to YOU for always providing great explanations of things. []

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    1. Bad boys? My favorite. I like bad boys who are Alphas. They don't take crap from anyone. He looks good in tight jeans or leather pants. No care hair but it still looks sexy. I would love to read this book. Thanks for the giveaway. trc@dloobfanerouk.com

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  9. True and good relationships with people should always be about caring for each other. To say “take care” may as well have the addendum “because I won’t be caring for you”. I don’t use the phrase for that reason. My small circle of friends and family will be cared for by me for as long as I live.

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  10. Happy birthday!!!! ๐ŸŽ‚๐ŸŽ‚๐ŸŽ‚๐ŸŽ‚
    To the most wittiest, craziest, sweetest blogger, I’ve ever met!!!
    May you get a lot of free pizza coupons in life, may you get in JNU, and may you get everything that your heart desires( such clichรฉd wish)

    There’s a treat due on you……..๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ•๐Ÿ•๐ŸŸ๐Ÿ”…..
    And that’s all……
    Have a rocking birthday……..

    P.S. some say, Aries and Cancerians become really good friends ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‹๐Ÿ˜‹๐Ÿ˜‰

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    1. Thanks a lot Ishan , Birthday girl is high on Pizza and Chocolate . Yes Mr. cancerian we can be good friends . It’s so sweet you took the time to wish it matters a lot. Few months back I was sure I could never make friends and here we are . Thanks a lot ๐Ÿ˜€ . No worries your treat is due .

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      1. Wow!! Happy to hear that you enjoyed!!!

        Kya baat hai yar, b’day tumhara hua, gift mujhe mil gya!!!
        Sach batau, mujhe bhi bas aisa hi lagta tha, ki ab is janam mein to koi dost nai banega, but then here we are…….

        JNU ki preparation ho gyi???

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        1. JNU ki long story hai , I just have to sit to see where I stand .I already am in a University and my masters course is available there and we will automatically be admitted to masters since we have bachelors degree from this uni , moreover it will be a masters with honours. So yes I am preparing but for others as well ๐Ÿ˜€ . Khushi badi jaldi ho jaate ho tum.

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          1. Oooooooooooooo………
            I am gonna bombard you with many questions now……….
            Umm, I heard that jnu provides some entrance exam guidance classes or something like that…… I’ve been told this, but I doubt the accuracy of the info…….
            Also I dont know what book I should read for modern history……

            Han wo kya hai na, abhi bhi thoda bachpana hai, toh hamesha excited hi rehta hun

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            1. I study in another university and I have heard this from your side . Well as far as my uni is concerned we are not provided much info , and we tend to miss deadlines . So I seriously doubt this word of providing entrance exam classes . It may be for administrative services exams I guess because my uni holds those.

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                    1. Happiness badi cheezon mein toh hai hi nai, log bevajah dhundhte rehte hain……..
                      Wo kya hai na, Johnny Bravo dekhte hue bade hue hain……. Wahin se seekha hai…..
                      Tumhare kon se the fav cartoon??

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                    2. Yeah two girls(doggie girls) . I had a male dog earlier he was older than me and died when I was in fifth std , that was sad but I wasn’t much attached to them as I am to these little angels .

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                    3. Yes, exactly!!! You get so attached to them, they become family……
                      Mine was with me for 14 years…..
                      Damn!!!
                      Haha that’s so sweet!!!
                      What’s their names???

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                    4. That is so nice , you know I too have two girls and I imagine what would happen when they leave for heaven and it’s not good . Well you are holding fine , he sees you from up there , but they don’t deserve to go .

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  11. I prefer to hear ‘ I will take care of you’ but I’m okay with ‘Take care’ too because only people who care say it. How are you?, take care, love you, go safe, did you eat? Would love to hear this all my life..๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š interesting post..thanks for the follow.

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